WOW | Men Speak

As a young teenage male what are your views on violence against women?

Compiled by: Anushka Shrestha

Obil Adhikari
Thames International College

Violence against women is a big issue. In modern times where the rest of the world is embracing gender equality, South-East Asian countries like Nepal and India are still facing huge problems of violence against women. Most culprits are still roaming free. Young girls are raped and become victims of acid attacks. This definitely does not make the world a safe place for them. Although cases have been minimised and there is a justice system, crimes haven’t gone down. Many young girls and women do no report cases because they fear for their reputation in society. Every woman is likely to face some kind of violence in their lifetime.

We often limit violence to physical violence, torture, rape, domestic violence but today there is a growing number of victims of cybercrime. Pre-teens and teens are objectified by men, pedophiles treat them as prey sending inappropriate messages and pictures. Young girls are made false promises of career in modeling. For instance, a few days ago, one of the guys from the school I studied in was exposed for doing something similar. A young girl stood up against it and posted the conversation on her Instagram story. Then there were so many other girls of the same age admitting that the guy had sent similar texts as well. Women must take a stand against such perpetrators and demand justice.

Bipul Shrestha
NCA College of Management

I believe that there is plenty of evidence that violence against women is a huge problem not only in Nepal but around the world. I believe it is deep rooted in gender inequality and starts in a woman’s life right from childhood to old age. Many perpetrators actually believe that it is okay to use violence against women. They don’t realise that it is one of the most wide-spread violations of human rights and has long-term devastating effects on the lives of women, their children, and eventually the community and society. Enough is enough; I want violence against women to end and together we can make it happen. When women support women good things happen but when men support women, better things happen.

Srijan Chaudhary
Nightingale International School

Violence stands for hurting someone physically with the intention to kill, damage or attack for personal or other issues. It can take place anywhere, with anyone at any time. In our society, women are victimised. They face real problems. They lack respect, equity, support and basic rights. I am a boy living in a patriarchal society where we are taught girls are weak. They are meant to be in the kitchen. They are said to be violated if they do wrong. But are they weak, incapable or scared? I don’t think so. I believe they are strong, responsible, worthy and capable of everything. They must raise their voice against violence, create awareness, empower each other, fight for their rights and prove everyone wrong. I believe that change is a must and education is the key to change.

Sambid Pant
Xavier Academy

Violence against women, a grave violation of human rights, yet something not open to conversation in many parts of Nepal. During November of 2019, we saw a significant rise in violence against women in the second province of our country. According to what I have seen violence usually rises when there is no place for a fruitful conversation to happen which is the case for most Nepali women in such areas.
Although I have not witnessed violence against women in person, I have heard and read of the consequences of brutality on women which have, in extreme cases, led to death.

There is a huge gap among the women in rural areas and women in urban Nepal. Women in Kathmandu for have a voice, and are developing new ideals and modern values. But in rural and semi urban situations, women suffer from domestic violence, dowry and social scrutiny.
We must continue to have conversations about the interrelation between domestic violence and sexism. We cannot deny that it exists. If we do then we are just ignoring reality.

Yesis Kadel
Anwer Khan Modern Medical College, Bangladesh

Violence against women, one of the most pervasive violation of human rights in the world, is also one of the least prosecuted crimes and one of the greatest threats to lasting peace and development. Truly speaking women’s violence is largely ignored yet a hugely important topic that is being witnessed in our society since ages. It involves physical or mental violence of women. In conflicts, women’s bodies too often become battle fields. Risks are amplified because women can be uprooted from their house any time. Recently, I saw a woman being badly treated in her own house by her husband. For no reason he was torturing her for not being able to contribute financially.
A woman’s silence doesn’t prove anything. She has to take action against the evils for her own self-respect and welfare and also for the upcoming generations.

Kritan Shrestha
Islington College

Why is violence against women still present in 2020? It is because women have been continued to be suppressed and not enough have stood up against it. Most women suffer from anxiety and depression due to the brutal environment they are in, yet no one cares. Violence is not necessarily from a man to a woman, it can also be from woman to woman, example mother-in-laws torturing their daughter-in-laws.
At least 35% of women worldwide have experienced either physical or sexual intimate partner violence or sexual violence by a non-partner at some point in their lives. In 2017 alone 87,000 women were intentionally killed out of which 50,000 were killed by intimate partners or family members meaning that 137 women across the world are killed by a member of their own family every day.
Even if we don’t see it with our own eyes, it exists. And it is a problem that cannot be solved by staying quiet. And it is not just a woman’s issue, it’s a human issue. If you see violence happening around you, don’t stay quiet, do something about it.