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5 Tips for amazing sex after 50
Once the fear of pregnancy leaves and menopausal hormones are under control, the world of sexual freedom is more open to women. Here are five ways to have sex after 50 with grace and beauty:
Show your confidence
Once we step over 40, we know who we are. We are no longer just someone’s mother or wife. We know our values, needs and what it takes to be our best self. We know our life has a purpose. Further, we know how to get our needs met. The new 50 leaves behind the role of grandmotherly martyrdom for the worldly traveller, executive and passionate lover.
Flirt more often
Married or not, it’s important to feel your femininity. The art of flirting is often overlooked as foreplay. Whether innocent or a prelude to a sexual encounter, feeling feminine and desirable is mandatory to freely express your sexuality.
Before you leave the house, prepare your body. Smell good, wear sexy underclothes, do your hair and makeup. When out, stand straight, look people in the eye, smile and be playful. Do what it takes to feel sexy.
Know your body and be able to communicate your needs
Many in their 20s and 30s are unhappy and neurotic about their bodies. After having babies, stretch marks and cellulite and after decades of pilates, yoga, cardio and weight training, you learn that imperfections don’t really matter. You also learn the truth: Men just do not care! As far as they are concerned, naked is a good thing.
Flaunt your flexibility
Flexibility does not limit to only bed but expands in the mind and spirit. By this age, we’ve probably seen enough of life to know our beliefs change, right/wrong thinking is not attractive and having unreasonable expectations leads to disappointment. Hence, wisdom to know when to let little things go is very attractive to men.
Use it or lose it
Many older women have been married or in long-term relationships and they know what it is like to be single. Hence, we are less needy, less desperate and more appreciative. The wisdom that comes with living through both relationships and singlehood reminds us how important it is to keep our sexuality going, whether with a partner or not.
Men and women both have physical body changes over 50. Vibrators, lubricants, hormone replacement therapies and little pills for men all mean that our sex life can be enhanced and expanded as we age.
Yet, the greatest sexual organ we have is our brain. What we think about sex, relationships, our bodies and the choices we make in regard to our sexuality are vital.
Therefore, when we enter our 50s we play more and give into societal norms less. If the men you know in their 50s, 60s and 70s are too fuddy-duddy, look for younger men. The truth is that some are bored with younger self-absorbed women their age who do not really know what they want.
The time is now, ladies. Be courageous and allow your fabulous inner goddess to shine.