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Conflict Between Mum & Wife Who comes first?
Compiled by: Pabita Dahal
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It is all about perception. One is your mother who gave birth to you while the other has given birth to your child. Hence they both are equal. So, rather than feeling divided between the two, you should be able to balance the relationship. Sometimes because of the generation gap, your mum and your wife may have different beliefs; this can be a tough nut to crack but with proper communication, you can make them both understand each other.
Actor & Entrepreneur
Rather than feeling divided between wife and mother, I feel that I am the best bridge that connects them. Be it getting permission for things, household chores, planning festivities, big family decisions, I ensure that I make communication more effective and easy. It is a slow and gradual process but so far so good.
Director, Kuzu Nepal
It is often considered that the relationship between most women and their mothers-in-law is fraught, causing tension in men’s life. But in my case, my wife appreciates and feels very fortunate to have a mother-in-law who loves her immensely and does everything possible to make her life at ease. Their relationship is more like a mother-daughter relationship and seeing their love and care for each other is the best feeling for me. So, instead of feeling divided, I have always found my mother and wife working towards the same goal; to make our family healthier and happier.
Owner, Rustic Himalayan Adventure
I am blessed to have two amazing women in my life – my mum and my wife. Both of them are businesswomen and they are busy throughout the day. And since I am busy as well, we rarely have time to indulge in small social issues. The quality time we spend during the mornings and evenings is very precious to us.
Both my mum and my wife help each other in their respective ways. They shop, hang-out and have fun together. They keep in check with each other and about others emotionally and socially. So, I have never felt divided between them. In fact, I feel proud to see them both work as a team.
At times, I do need to prioritise, then I give my time and attention separately to each of them. They are my love and strength. At the end of the day, home is where the heart is and for me, both is in my family.
Director – Sales and Marketing, Hotel Mystic Mountain
Mother and wife, both are strong personalities: the leaders, the guiding forces, the pillars, the motivators, the lovers, and more. However, a mother’s unconditional love and affection can never be compared but only appreciated. Having said that, both are very important in a man’s life! Mother gives birth, nurtures, grooms and makes her child strong to survive in the world, whereas a wife sticks with her husband through thick and thin. She works as a guiding force. If a mother’s sacrifice cannot be measured then a wife’s never-ending tolerance cannot be calculated either.