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THE CHALLENGE OF BEING A SINGLE PARENT

Compiled by: Anushka Shrestha
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Ram Gopal Shrestha
Director, Phonepay Nepal

All of us come into the world alone and die alone. But during the journey of birth and death, we seek for a partner with whom we can live our life. And for me that person was my wife. Ever since I lost my wife, I have never been able to find someone who understands and supports me like her. This has been one of the greatest challenges for me as I have no one to share things with. There are men who stay unmarried their whole life. For me it is challenging as I have already experienced what it feels like to always have a partner by my side. Of course, a lot of people ask me why I didn’t get re-married but I think marriage is something so pure that it is better to do it only once in a lifetime. Secondly, the law states that half the husband’s property should be given to his wife. I and my wife have given birth and raised my children. Therefore, I didn’t want to share my property with anyone new when I can transfer it to my children. I don’t know how my daughters take it but for me, they are the living symbol of me and my partner’s love. And in all these years, I have realised that I should look after myself not depending on anyone else.

Lastly, I would like to say that one becomes lonely when he allows it. Even men with wives are loners these days. It all depends on how you choose things in the journey of life.