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The Key To Work-Life Balance
Compiled by: Rojina Maharjan
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Dr Bijoy Rajbanshi
Principal Consultant Cardiac Surgeon & HOD, Department of Cardio Vascular and Thoracic Surgery, Nepal Mediciti
This is a very pertinent question, achieving the elusive work life balance can sometimes feels like an impossible goal. As I am a doctor, my work is very demanding and I am required to be available all the time. My work does not allow flexibility or compromise. Often I have to attend to hospital emergencies in the middle of the night and this does put me in very precarious situations sometimes. I always make an effort to be home on time for at least two dinners in a week and do some of the household chores such as groceries and small errands. I reserve my Saturdays, which I usually spend with my family – wife and two children – avoid committing to and respectfully decline any social or professional activities that will take me away from my family. I believe communication between couples becomes the key and I share my concerns with regard to attempting to balance out both, and at the same time showing unconditional support to my wife’s work and prioritising her concerns as well. I always make the effort to call at least twice a day to enquire and to stay connected through the day. These minute things may appear trivial but shows you care. Time is precious and thus I try to do something together with my children – bath time, bedtime stories or even playing games that they like. I do look at taking the occasional vacation with my family and the occasional weekend getaways that rejuvenates me from my work stress and allows me to spend time with my family.
I believe it is very important to compartmentalise – in that what I mean is separate the two but at the same time focus when at both. Prioritising does not mean sacrifice, what it means is adjustment. Set boundaries for work and be disciplined and ensure good implementation, which is easier said than done but it saves time. Staying late at office does not mean that you like to live at work and taking a day off does not mean you do not like your work.
It’s important to value your partner and be an emotional support, especially in a profession like mine where the sacrifice she makes professionally and personally for running the family allows me to work without any stress of home. Similarly value your colleagues as well. Communication and being responsible is important, both at home and at work.
Focus on things that are important to you and be able to respectfully decline other things and prioritise. It’s what I would call a balanced sacrifice. Work life balance may sound so wholesome and rational; but falter in one and it will affect both.[/nextpage] [nextpage title=”Dipendra K Khanal” ]
Dipendra K Khanal
As I am in the creative field, it is often hard to manage time between my relationships and work. Due to my profession, I have to be away from home for long periods of time for shoots and the family tends to get neglected. Even when I am home, I find it difficult to set side time for social commitments. I also need alone time to focus on my creative side while writing scripts. It does get complicated to maintain balance but my family knows that no matter what, I am there for them when they need me. I do try my best to compensate and take breaks from work to be with my family.
As a husband and father, I give full attention to my family when I am with them. I have frequent talks with them about the nature of my work. I have seen relationships going bad due to lack of attention so I try my best to spend time with my daughter in the morning and talk about my and her day with my wife when I am back home from work.[/nextpage] [nextpage title=”Sachin Udas” ]
Business Development Manager, Genese Software Solution.
For me work is not just 9 to 5 job but it is very much a part of me. And family is my life which will stay with me even if I stop working at some point. My family is the white open big page in which a few boxes are traced out for work. Relationships are long -run emotional engagements that need time together. The important thing to keep in mind is to strike the right balance by choosing wisely how to spend your time. Sometimes work can take precedence but with an understanding family, it can never become an issue. I believe that relationships are built of glass, but work is built of wood and nails. You have to treat each based on its intrinsic nature. However, the most important person is you and while you maintain the balance, do not forget yourself, your personal space that allows you to maintain the balance.[/nextpage] [nextpage title=”Vinay Shrestha” ]
I really am lucky as I have an understanding wife who is very supportive and understands the nature of my work. She is actually happy when my fans compliment me for my work; she understands that without them I am nowhere and nobody.
I always make sure that I give both my work and relationship equal attention and time, and never take either for granted. The secret to keeping this balance is my ability to manage time and keep my priorities in place. With the birth of my daughter, I am happier in life and I feel blessed.[/nextpage] [nextpage title=”Dikesh Malhotra” ]
President and CEO at IMS Group
I believe love and respect is at the core of every relationship either personal or professional. Sometimes one might take precedence over another but I remember that it is situational and make sure I am always available to both. It is important to be present and to make the most of the time I have and be honest about what is going on. Personally my wife and I have worked for a long time together so she understands my work and how I operate, so that helps. Also I have a team I have worked with for quite some time and they too understand my work priorities and that I always do anything to the best of my abilities to do justice to it. Balance works best when you are not the only one fighting for it and I try to maintain people around me who can help me. I always seek quality over quantity. Saturdays are for family and I make sure during my leisure time before and after work I make time to be with my daughter, Dia. We take frequent vacations too.[/nextpage]